Toward the end of June last year, I came through the OA doors with some skepticism and resistance, but it melted as I started working the Steps. I identi ed early on with the words “Welcome to Overeaters Anonymous. Welcome home.” I’m currently working on Step Seven, humbly asking my Higher Power to remove my shortcomings. So much comes into the journey. So much is important. And it all seems to be connected.
There are four attitudes or qualities that make a big difference when I can tune into them: gratitude, willingness, acceptance and humility.
For me, Step Seven involves exploring humility, the quality of being humble, and learning to surrender to a Higher Power. Humility doesn’t come easily for me and often is absent, but when it’s present, it’s a source of spiritual strength. It seems to be accessible when I feel gratitude, willingness and acceptance.
When I’m feeling humble, I don’t feel unlovable, unworthy, ugly or not good enough. I don’t feel self-centered, self-absorbed, selfish or superior. My ego isn’t running the show. In other words, I’m no longer the star in my own drama. It’s not all about me.
With humility I can say, “I need help. Please help me.” I can reach out to people and to my Higher Power. When I’m being humble, I can listen to other people and hear what they say. There is connection. I don’t take myself so seriously, thank goodness!
With humility, I don’t try to carry the load by myself. I don’t feel like I need to control things. I can admit my mistakes and admit to being wrong. What a relief. I let go of judgment and criticism about others and myself.
When I’m humble, I don’t think I know what’s best for someone else. With humility, I can let go of resistance and release the struggle: “Let go; let God.”
When I find humility, I have more patience with people, situations and myself. I have room for curiosity and learning. I have space in my heart for love and compassion.
— Janis C., Canada